The Three C's of Success
Byron| March 3rd, 2014
SELF-IMPROVEMENT & SUCCESS
SELF-IMPROVEMENT & SUCCESS
The whole idea of being successful is a very played out idea in many blogs. Most of them say the same types of things over and over again.
You know - having courage, being confident, trying your best, working hard, diving in with a full commitment, yada yada yada.
Look, I'm not attacking anyone's insight into the subject. I've just realized something: being "successful" really isn't such a complicated idea. A lot of the same ideas get spread around over and over again because they all have some of the same foundational elements in the recipe.
I'm a firm believer that the most basic stuff is usually the most helpful. When we try and come up with complicated strategies and theories, we tend to over-think this stuff and head towards paralysis by analysis territory. You could spend lifetimes in this area.
So to keep things very simple and straightforward, I'm going to give you my 3 C's for success. They are all very easy ideas. Easy to understand...yet mastered by very few. Adding any of these three ideas into your life will bring about steady change in regards to your goals.
There are no magic bullets...just helpful guidelines. Let's dive in...
One of my favorite quotes from Bruce Lee is: "Long term consistency trumps short term intensity." This is the tale of the Tortoise and the Hare. Someone who repeats the same healthy habits every day over and over again is going to go a lot farther than someone who becomes aggressively committed for three weeks before rapidly burning out.
Remember to pace yourself. Understand that willpower is a finite resource. As you push yourself harder in one area of your life, you will have less leftover in the tank to give to your other commitments. So instead of trying to go from a dead-stop to 100 MPH, try gradually accelerating. Set small milestones along the way that you plan to hit that stretch you without breaking you. This way you train your body and your mind to keep adapting and adjusting to your new workload.
Just ask yourself this: would you rather have a lifetime of steady progress under your belt or a series of starts and stops with nothing to really show for your hard work? Stay consistent with what you intend on working towards - and let no excuse get in your way. Mastering your word and behaving with integrity is a must with this (and I talked about it in the Unshakable Swagger Podcast).
Discipline is a necessity for any goal you're taking on. You need to become excellent at getting your body to follow through on what your mind envisions. This means developing self-control and the strength necessary to bypass the temptations and distractions that can potentially wipe you out.
Practice self-control in the smallest moments. If you tell yourself you're not going to eat any sweets for the remainder of the day, stick to it. If you promise not to lie for the rest of the day, stay honest. Delay gratification and reward yourself after you reach your goals instead of giving in when you feel like it.
Another important chunk to this idea is taking the time to manipulate your environment to your advantage. Your environment is proven to be more stronger than willpower. Think about what you surround yourself. Do you work in a well-organized, tidy office or is it a mess? Are you looking at motivational vision boards, artwork, and posters on the walls or are they bare? Are there barriers between you and your goals or does energy freely flow in your space? Take some time to think about how you've laid out your environment and make sure it's working in your favor.
What a HUGE surprise. A life coach is suggesting you look into coaching.
For the same reason every olympian has a coach pushing them to excellence, ensuring they get stronger and faster day by day, hiring a coach ensures that you keep pushing your limits and developing from the inside-out.
A great life coach will call you on your shit in ways your friends and family won't. They won't let you make excuses or let your fears own your decisions. They won't allow you to settle for mediocrity when most would want to relax and ease off. And they especially won't let you fall short of fulfilling the commitments necessary to accomplishing your goals.
The outside perspective a quality coach can provide is immensely valuable. Just like when you were 16 years old barreling down the road in your Mom's SUV, there are blind spots all over your life. There are perspectives each of us haven't taken into consideration and won't be able to take into consideration without some outside insight.
When you have two brains working toward a common goal, the odds of you getting there increase exponentially. And when consistent progression is part of the structure with coaching, there is no way you won't hit the mark.
If you're serious about success, look into hiring a world class coach.
About Byron Van Pelt
Byron Van Pelt is a Certified Life Coach, entrepreneur, and published author of Unshakable Swagger: The Man's Guide to Being Confident Any Time, Any Place...Period. He is now happily married with his wife, Bethany and lives in Jacksonville, Florida. With over eight years of dedication to the world of high-end personal development, he utilizes an arsenal of skills to accelerate his clients' breakthroughs in business, dating, health, and fulfillment. Byron specializes in teaching men how to explode their level of confidence in everything they do and ensure it resonates in even the most challenging circumstances.