How to Get the Most Out of This Blog
You've found me.
And now I know what you're thinking: who is this BYRON DUDE, what does he know, why should I read this, and how did he get so strikingly handsome?
OK, well at least I got at least 3/4 right.
Let me break this down the best I can...
WHO IS THE AUTHOR OF THIS BLOG?
This blog is written primarily by a Certified Life Coach, author, and founder of this website, Byron Van Pelt. If you'd like to learn more about me, including my personal journey to get where I am today, feel free to visit my ABOUT page.
In a nutshell, I used to be an incredibly unconfident guy who failed at just about everything I tried. I knew there were other men out there who were vastly successful and influential, and I believed there was a way to get to their level...but I had no clue how. I used to ask myself the same question over and over and over again: "What do I have to do to get what I want?" For the longest time, no answers were ever coming to me. Until one day, alone on a beach late at night, I shifted the question I was asking. I realized I was asking myself the wrong thing - what I needed to DO or FIGURE OUT wasn't important. What I needed to be asking was, "WHO do I have to BECOME?" From that moment forward, I embarked on a mission to become someone this weaker version of himself would never recognize.
After reading every book I could on confidence, going to seminars, listening to audio programs, trying hypnotherapy, and attending communication workshops, I realized something: most of the information out there wasn't cutting it. I wanted to learn how to create an authentic, lasting confidence that served as a foundation I could build on. What I found, however, was that most material on "getting confident" fell into one of two categories: 1) INNER stuff all about changing your thoughts (like NLP) that was great when I was alone reading it in a book but went right out the window the moment I was in public and the pressure was on and 2) OUTER stuff that was all about using social tactics to manipulate people or memorizing these canned routines to impress others. I needed something deeper - more spiritual, more balanced, and more engaging. I was willing to apply myself for my transformation - I didn't want it handed to me on a silver platter...but I also wanted what I learned to actually WORK when I applied it.
I ultimately decided to find men who were already extremely successful and confident and work with them closely. I hired a multi-millionaire business coach with a degree in Kung Fu to teach me the inner principles of success and living in balance. I embodied the body language and vocal tonalities of a charismatic public speaker and celebrity life coach. I trained under a widely successful entrepreneur and zen master to dive deep into my fears and kill off my inner demons. I invested thousands of dollars for personal growth and finally started getting new results in my life.
Lots of things have happened since then. I became a certified Life Coach, married the woman of my dreams, wrote a book called Unshakable Swagger...and then launched a website. Right now I am all about distilling what I learned into simple but powerful teachings any man can apply to become an unstoppably confident and influential leader.
Which brings us to...
WHAT AM I GOING TO GET OUT OF THIS BLOG?
My intention in creating this blog is to simply help you, from wherever you are in your life right now, get insight in four areas I believe can make a HUGE impact for you:
1) How to see through the fog of fear, doubt, and insecurity that most of the world operates from
2) Being an authentic and great man who lives in integrity with what he stands for and believes
3) Learning social strategies and techniques for improving communication, boosting your influence, and getting your genius recognized
4) Get some strong kick in the ass motivation to aggressively pursue your goals and refuse to settle
Most of what I write about is going to fall within one of those four categories. However, this blog is going to evolve as YOU evolve. I'm always adapting to the needs of my clients - so my relationship with the readers of this blog is no different. If there is something you're struggling with or want feedback regarding, let me know.
HOW TO STAY IN TOUCH WITH ME
Twitter is the #1 most immediate way to reach me. Send me a DM or tweet @coachbyronvp.
With that being said, i widely encourage you to leave comments here in the blog. This lets me know what is valuable to you as a reader, and what is not. Also, I encourage you to speak openly about what I'm discussing. I don't pretend to have ALL of the answers. If you disagree with what I'm writing - tell me! Sometimes MY truth isn't going to be YOUR truth - and that's OK. The purpose of this blog is to start a discussion - it's not a soapbox for me to stand on (although I'm sure I'll do plenty of ranting).
One last thing - if you want to reach me via email, you can use the Contact page of this website or you can email me via firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thanks for reading - let me know if I can serve you in any way.
About Byron Van Pelt
Byron Van Pelt is a Certified Life Coach, entrepreneur, and published author of Unshakable Swagger: The Man's Guide to Being Confident Any Time, Any Place...Period. He is now happily married with his wife, Bethany and lives in Jacksonville, Florida. With over eight years of dedication to the world of high-end personal development, he utilizes an arsenal of skills to accelerate his clients' breakthroughs in business, dating, health, and fulfillment. Byron specializes in teaching men how to explode their level of confidence in everything they do and ensure it resonates in even the most challenging circumstances.